The year 2022 has officially come to an end. This is a time when people from all over the world think about the goals and intentions they hope to accomplish in the next 12 months. Some people hope to get promoted in their job. Some hope to be better at money management. Some want to lose the ten pounds they have been trying to lose for months now. While others are drawn to pursuing self love. Whatever your desire is, it incorporates things we want to do this year to make us feel like we are enough. It encompasses ways in which we can be more “perfect.” I am a very strong believer in setting intentions, but I also want you to remember that you are enough even without these goals being accomplished.
Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because perfection doesn’t exist. It’s an unattainable goal. Perfectionism is more about perception than internal motivation, and there is no way to control perception; no matter how much time and energy we spend trying. It is addictive, because when we invariably do experience shame, judgment, and blame, we often believe it’s because we weren’t perfect enough. Rather than questioning the faulty logic of perfectionism, we become even more entrenched in our quest to look and do everything just right.
What I want you to think about and do along with setting your goals for this year is also think about the amazing things you accomplished this last year. I want you to write them all down. Anything from being more confident to starting something new to becoming closer with a friend . Write everything down. You will then start to see how much you have grown, even if it didn’t feel like it at first.
Don’t lose sight of all that you did accomplish. I want you to be proud of yourself. I want you to say: You are powerful. You are strong. You are courageous. When you are able to actually sit down and write all of the things you have been able to achieve and persevere through this last year, you will start to appreciate yourself more. You are amazing. I see your light. I see your growth. Now, it’s your turn.
Luv, Liv